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    Too Little, Too Late: Sage the Gemini and Jordin Sparks

    Now listen, I’m not sure what exactly happened between Sage the Gemini and Jordin Sparks. One minute they were all over Instagram and people were calling them #relationshipgoals and the next Sage is typing some long post about how Jordin needs to “come back to her senses” and be with him again. 



    I’m sorry. What? 
    Maybe it’s because I was just on the phone with my mom the other day and she was cautioning me to be wary of on-again, off-again relationships, aka every modern day situationship. Her reasoning what that these situations can often be abusive (physically, mentally, or emotionally) and I’m NOT saying anything like that was going on between Sage and Jordin. But I think we as women have to be wary of men who say they love us and then act in a manner that doesn’t match up with their words. I don’t know why exactly, but this just does not sit well with me. What especially doesn’t sit well is the fact that people (male and female alike) are all up and in Jordin’s Instagram comments telling her that she needs to call him. 



    Now listen, if Jordin decides to get back with Sage because she loves him and wants to work whatever happened out, then great for her. But what’s not okay is Sage making a public profession of his so called “love” for her and putting her in a position where people know their private business and are pressuring her into responding in a way they see fit. 

    By making the Instagram post that he did, Sage, at least publicly, took away Jordin’s agency. That’s not love. That’s not caring about someone and wanting the best for them. That’s trying to guilt someone into being with you, which if he messed up he doesn’t really have a right to do. It would seem to me that Jordin “came to her senses” the second she decided to break things off because in doing so, she was doing what was best for her based on what she was presented with. 

    We as women have to be wary of men who say they love us & then act in a manner that doesn’t match their words.

    I’ve said this before about Ciara and I’ll say it now about Jordin. You’re never a good woman if you leave because we as woman are expected to stay no matter what. But, that’s crap and even if he calls you constantly, sends you a long text, or professes his love on IG/Twitter, never be afraid to stand your ground, keep him blocked, and continue to be happy. 

    You know why? Because you deserve someone who knows how great you are from jump and does his best NOT to put himself or you in the position that Sage/Jordin are in. Know your worth. Stand your ground. And don’t get sucked back in to a crappy relation(situation)ship just because he loves you on IG today. 

    Mommy said beware the on-again, off-again situation. 
    & we all know, Mommy’s always right.

    Gabrielle Hickmon
    Gabrielle Hickmon

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    1. Mariah Rayford
      February 17, 2016 / 5:25 am

      I do think the people commenting on Jordin’s page is a bit much but I don’t think he’s wrong for trying to get her back via social media. She definitely has the choice to never speak to him again but I don’t think he meant any harm by making that post.

      • The Reign
        February 27, 2016 / 5:45 pm

        Thanks for sharing your perspective! 🙂

    2. DeLioness Suhnday
      February 17, 2016 / 10:44 pm

      We are so quick to assume that the man was the one that did something… Him professing his love for her publicly doesn’t mean that he did anything wrong… Fact is none of us actually know what happened or didn’t happen…. Ppl sitting on the outside should stay there….

      • The Reign
        February 27, 2016 / 5:46 pm

        Thanks for engaging!

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