Now listen, I’m not sure what exactly happened between Sage the Gemini and Jordin Sparks. One minute they were all over Instagram and people were calling them #relationshipgoals and the next Sage is typing some long post about how Jordin needs to “come back to her senses” and be with him again.
I’m sorry. What?
Maybe it’s because I was just on the phone with my mom the other day and she was cautioning me to be wary of on-again, off-again relationships, aka every modern day situationship. Her reasoning what that these situations can often be abusive (physically, mentally, or emotionally) and I’m NOT saying anything like that was going on between Sage and Jordin. But I think we as women have to be wary of men who say they love us and then act in a manner that doesn’t match up with their words. I don’t know why exactly, but this just does not sit well with me. What especially doesn’t sit well is the fact that people (male and female alike) are all up and in Jordin’s Instagram comments telling her that she needs to call him.
Now listen, if Jordin decides to get back with Sage because she loves him and wants to work whatever happened out, then great for her. But what’s not okay is Sage making a public profession of his so called “love” for her and putting her in a position where people know their private business and are pressuring her into responding in a way they see fit.
By making the Instagram post that he did, Sage, at least publicly, took away Jordin’s agency. That’s not love. That’s not caring about someone and wanting the best for them. That’s trying to guilt someone into being with you, which if he messed up he doesn’t really have a right to do. It would seem to me that Jordin “came to her senses” the second she decided to break things off because in doing so, she was doing what was best for her based on what she was presented with.
I’ve said this before about Ciara and I’ll say it now about Jordin. You’re never a good woman if you leave because we as woman are expected to stay no matter what. But, that’s crap and even if he calls you constantly, sends you a long text, or professes his love on IG/Twitter, never be afraid to stand your ground, keep him blocked, and continue to be happy.
You know why? Because you deserve someone who knows how great you are from jump and does his best NOT to put himself or you in the position that Sage/Jordin are in. Know your worth. Stand your ground. And don’t get sucked back in to a crappy relation(situation)ship just because he loves you on IG today.
Mommy said beware the on-again, off-again situation.
& we all know, Mommy’s always right.