We’ve all been there before. Talked to, had a crush on, dated, whatever you want to call it a guy that was trash. A Fuckboy. Asshole. Asshat. Jerk. Bumbaclot liar. Whatever you want to call him.
We’ve also all probably kept said boy around way longer than we should have or let him come back around when we knew he had no business being anywhere near ours.
Well. While I don’t have the answers for how to get rid of fuckboys, because if I did, my life would be a lot easier, I do have some examples to offer of the post-fuckboy glow as inspiration.
Exhibit A: Lala Anthony
Recently, the world discovered that Black Love is on the rocks because one of our favorite celeb couples, LaLa and Carmelo Anthony split. Outside of the fact that LaLa has been down for Melo since he was wearing tall tees and oversized suits, meaning she never deserved to get cheated on, its always sad when couples who seemed to really love each other split.
However, hell have no fury like a Black woman scorned and you can’t out petty us either. I mean, she has a ring on EVERY finger EXCEPT her ring finger. LaLa stepped out to the MET Gala on Monday looking like everything. Actually, outside of the first picture posted once news of their split broke, LaLa has been slaying.
The best part about all of this is that unless she decides to take a page out of Bey’s book and make Lemonade just because she wants to, LaLa doesn’t have to be with Melo. She is an author, actress, producer, etc. with plenty of money to take care of her family and self. And the grip she’d come up on from their divorce wouldn’t hurt either.
Why do men always do women with the greatest propensity to glow up on them wrong?
Exhibit B: Karrueche Tran
Karrueche Tran, model, budding actress, and third party to the love triangle that also included Chris Brown and Rihanna. Karrueche was with Chris after his Rihanna drama. After he was sitting court side with Rihanna at a basketball game on Christmas, which is a date if I’ve ever seen one. And even post this, until he got one of her friends pregnant with daughter Royalty. Talk about ride or die. Or ride or stupid. Your call.
Why Karrueche stuck around when Chris once said he felt like he was in love with both her and Rihanna I’ll never know. Just kidding. I do get that. Love, or strong like will make you do some stupid shit.
Regardless, Karrueche has since disentangled herself from Chris, only he can’t seem to let go. He is constantly commenting on her Instagram photos, getting publicly upset with any man that claims to date her, and popping up on her when she’s out and about. (We’ve all seen the meme).
Post-Chris, Karrueche has done a cosmetic line with Colourpop, produced her own series, exercised her way to a betterr body and continued to grow in her modeling career demonstrating just how lit post-fuckboy life is. Serving as motivation for us all.
Exhibit C: Ciara Wilson
Exhibit C is the one that drives Twitter Niggas the most crazy, Ciara Wilson, wife of Russell Wilson and former girlfriend of Future, their leader.
Singer, model, and dancer, Ciara was a star in her own right before dating Future, having a baby with him, and then rightfully leaving him and upgrading to someone better. Men everywhere hate Ciara because she, like the other women in this post had the audacity to leave the one she was with for someone who would treat her right and love her like she wanted to be loved. Men hate women who leave because well, it means they aren’t as powerful as they think and their trash can no longer stand.
If you ask me, Ciara one upped us all when she got with Russell Wilson. Sure, some may call him corny and that whole “leading her” thing rubbed me the wrong way, but you can’t deny that Russell has seemingly stepped up to the plate. He put a ring on it. He’s a great step-father to baby Future and he knocked her up quick.
What one won’t do, someone else will. We would all do well to leave our Future’s and find our Russell’s. Sometimes, nice guys really do win.
Like, I said, I don’t have the answers. I’m not sure the step-by-step process you take to rid your life of the assholes in it. But, I do think it starts with having some self-respect for yourself and knowing you deserve better. Remembering that what he won’t do someone else will. Continuing to believe love can happen for you again even on your darkest days. Blocking his number, deleting the text thread, and unfollowing on social media so you can’t do anything reckless at 3:23AM when you miss him and have been drinking too much. Taking the necessary time to mourn and not blaming yourself.
Deciding that maybe you’re not gonna make Lemonade, but also knowing you don’t just have to bear with the lemons.
Plus, summer is coming. All the more reason to drop your problematic hoes in favor of a new roster of lil baby’s who actually gone listen. Don’t say I didn’t tell you!