When I was shopping for my move to Spain, I was looking for pieces that were comfortable, yet elevated, and matched my vibe. I’ve had my eye on getting something from Hanifa Co. for forever and finally took the plunge this summer. I originally got their CHERI dress in the Flaming Red but switched it out for the Lilac. Both looked great on my brown skin though, so you really can’t go wrong either way.
I was nervous about the dress because in most of the pictures I’d seen, it was worn on fuller bodied women (aka my sisters whose hips have spread more than mine) and I wasn’t sure how it would look or if I would like it on my smaller frame. I’m honestly insecure about not feeling like I have the more “traditional” or stereotypical hips (depending upon how you look at it lol) of Black women. While my insecurity is real, I also know in my head that Black women come in all shapes and sizes, full of beauty and strength in their own right. Still, my insecurity has lead me to shy away from wearing clothes that are tighter in the hip/booty area, cover my hips with a sweater or longer shirt, or just wear something anyway and be uncomfortable no matter how nice it may have actually looked. I’ve worried if I look ‘woman enough’ and if my “grown woman weight” will ever come.
Maybe one day it will. Maybe it won’t. But the reality is, my hips are my hips and every day they help me get to where I need to go. They support my body and one day, should I choose to, will help me bring a new life into the world. I lost some weight last year and again, if I’m being honest, I don’t always see myself as the size 6 that I am. I still buy my clothes two sizes too big and am surprised at the frame I see in the mirror. I’m not saying women need to be a size 6. I’m saying that I am one and often find myself wishing I was thicker in the “right places” instead of appreciating and loving the body I have. This healthy, brown, beautiful, strong body of mine. So, I bought the dress and decided my hip dips, little booty and I would just have to get along.
And, we did. We are.Here's to clothes that fit. Here's to little booties and narrow hips. And here's to the dresses that make us feel beautiful, no matter what frame or size we find ourselves. Click To Tweet
Loving the body I have is something I work on every day. But, I’ve only got the one and since butt injections aren’t an option I’m seriously willing to pursue, I’m just going to have to get on with loving myself as I am.
So, here’s to the skin I’m in. Here’s to knowing I have always been and will be “woman enough.” Here’s to clothes that fit. Here’s to little booties and narrow hips.
And here’s to the dresses that make us feel beautiful, no matter what frame or size we find ourselves.
Location: Galicia, Spain | Photographer: Annabel | Edits: Gabrielle Hickmon